Comments on: COMPASS

By: Betsy Wuebker

Betsy Wuebker — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 01:53:17 +0000

Hahaha Davina – no doubt. I still remember his name, too. He worked for a blue jeans company. More like, “death of a dream.” hahaha

By: Davina

Davina — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 19:25:18 +0000

Hi Betsy. LOL about that salesman… “the death of a salesman???”

Davina´s last blog post..A Ghostly Life Experience

By: Betsy Wuebker

Betsy Wuebker — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 12:33:50 +0000

Hi Kathy – Bless that girl’s heart – she was marching to a different drummer. I bet there is somebody out there just like her, though, somewhere. I remember groups of kids at my kids’ high school who dressed Goth – all the same, though.

Hi Barbara – Yes, you’re right about online. Everyone is free from misconception at first. Words and thoughts get to the heart of a person without interference. But, also, there is lots of room for phony personas, too, isn’t there? I remember someone telling me in the 1990′s that she loved being online because it was then that she could be the person she wanted to be. I wondered what was keeping her from that in real life?

Hi Davina – I remember in the 1970′s I had to talk to this salesman who had the sexiest voice – oh, it was such a pleasure! Then I go to NY and meet him and well…let’s just say the visual was way better than the reality. I wish I could claim the idea of blank slate, but it was presented in another discussion. I found it so intriguing, but, like you, I doubt I could suspend my own patterns.

By: Davina

Davina — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 10:06:34 +0000

Hi Betsy. Very interesting analogy with the compass. What find interesting is when I speak to someone on the phone that I haven't met, how I draw up a visual image of what I think they might look like. I'm always so wrong! I like your concept of viewing others as a blank slate. I just can't imagine doing that, I mean... I don't think I could pull it off. Davina´s last blog post..A Ghostly Life Experience

By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 04:35:43 +0000

Hi Betsy - In some ways when we "meet" others online, they are a blank slate. But then as we read their words and "see" how they interact with others, it's easy to make assumptions about them. Although I do think a person can be a blank slate for a short period of time, inevitably we'll soon put a label (of some sort) on them. Barbara Swafford´s last blog post..A.S.K. Darren Rowse - Problogger - How To Become A Six Figure Blogger

By: Kathy @ Virtual Impax

Kathy @ Virtual Impax — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 03:39:16 +0000

My teenagers were watching an episode of the MTV series, "Made" where the 15 year old young lady wore a Harry Potter cape to school and carried a large stick which she used like a magic wand. Her compass was definitely calibrated quite uniquely, to say the least. By the way, she applied to be on the show because she wanted to "fit in" with other teens. Seems her uniquely calibrated compass was causing no end to social difficulty in the treacherous halls of high school. Kathy @ Virtual Impax´s last blog post..Sneak Peak at Wordpress 2.7 Dashboard

By: Betsy Wuebker

Betsy Wuebker — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 16:41:12 +0000

Hi Cath – I don’t think it’s possible to suspend our compass points, either, although it’s intriguing to think about. At the very least, you’d have to be dealing with someone who agreed to do so as well, or the risk factor would be too large, no?

By: Cath Lawson

Cath Lawson — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 04:32:17 +0000

Hi Betsy – this is an interesting post. And no matter how much we dislike the fact, we base a lot of our expectations on things we already know. It’s difficult not to and probably dangerous sometimes.

As you say, when we attempt to be different, often we’re not that different at all, we’re just learning from a new set of people.