Comments on: TENACITY

By: CHANGE DOESN’T COME FROM THE TOP — Passing Thru

CHANGE DOESN’T COME FROM THE TOP — Passing Thru — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 13:55:02 +0000

[...] Panic: The Story of Modern Financial Insanity, both by Michael Lewis, which we discussed here in “Tenacity” and here in “Panic”; Timothy Geithner; and yes, even Barack Obama. Some of you will [...]

By: PANIC | Passing Thru

PANIC | Passing Thru — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 03:54:30 +0000

[...] Lewis, whose work we referenced in our recent post, “Tenacity,” is at it again. When I read Liar’s Poker in the late 80’s, I was amazed. I [...]

By: Betsy Wuebker

Betsy Wuebker — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 22:10:14 +0000

Hi Grace – Thank you for coming by! I think the older I get the less fearful I am of failing, so I’m more fearless. Knowing what I know convinces me it won’t be all that bad, so get on with it. But I agree, hanging around with younger people keeps you up on things, like the lingo. Dude….

By: Grace

Grace — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 04:47:10 +0000

You must have read my mind. I just finished a post on fear of failure! I think the older we get the less willing we are to stub a toe in the name of progress. So that’s why it’s always a good idea to hang around with folks 20 years (or more) younger than you are, to get a jump start now and again.

Good post! G.

By: Betsy Wuebker

Betsy Wuebker — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 21:05:20 +0000

Hi Kathy – I love all biographies. So often scratching beneath the surface yields stories of overcoming adversity at tremendous odds. And responsibility pays such a big part – it’s entirely another post. Thank you.

By: Kathy @ Virtual Impax

Kathy @ Virtual Impax — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 15:00:26 +0000

I used to LOVE watching the VH1 series of “behind the music” because they would tell the stories of the people who had “made it big” and often, the trail to success was literally paved with failure.

So often, we see the “end result” – the screaming fans – the successful business -what we don’t see is the YEARS of struggle – the falling down 9 times and getting up 10 – that went into building the “overnight success”. I love those stories – because I hang on to them as I’m wiping the blood from my scraped knees and palms.

By the way, there’s no way for me to “mine” those experiences for gold if I don’t accept my part- my responsibility for the failure. That’s the tough part for me!!! If I don’t do an autopsy – I’m doomed to trip over the same place in the path over and over again!

Kathy @ Virtual Impax´s last blog post..Shedding Light into the Darkest Corners of the Web

By: Betsy Wuebker

Betsy Wuebker — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 00:42:28 +0000

Hi Brett – Yes, food for a series! I bet your wife was spellbound.

Hi Barbara – You’re right! We rarely use the word, yet it is used on us as parents every time we’re in the grocery line with our toddlers! It’s hard as a parent not to give in, but we need to weigh every circumstance for the better good, don’t we? Thanks.

By: Barbara Swafford - Blogging Without A Blog

Barbara Swafford - Blogging Without A Blog — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 19:06:24 +0000

Hi Betsy – I love the word tenacity. It’s a word that’s not used enough when raising children or even when describing how someone got to be where they are. We often look at others and may say, “Oh, they are so lucky.”, or “They must have been in the right spot at the right time”, but what we don’t see is the tenacity they had/have that got them to where they are.

Isn’t it amazing how babies are born with tenacity and we, as parents or adults, unknowingly take some of that away from them by making things a little bit too easy or showing them shortcuts?

Barbara Swafford – Blogging Without A Blog´s last blog post..NBOTW – An Explorer Of Life

By: Brett Legree

Brett Legree — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 13:33:29 +0000

Betsy, Hmm. Good point, worthy of much consideration. It reminds me of a conversation my wife had years ago with an elderly person, when she was working as a caregiver. Quite a touching story. Brett Legree´s last blog post..week 2 - check up.

By: Betsy Wuebker

Betsy Wuebker — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 13:20:37 +0000

Hi Brett – It just occurred to me that in our final moment of life, perhaps we are getting the best chance of all. Probably another discussion, eh?

Hi Matthew – Great observation! Albert Schweitzer referred to the inner fire going out, then being burst into flame by an encounter with another human being, and how we should be grateful for those people who inspire. Isolated teenagers need repeated encounters that kindle the flame. Thanks.

Hi Kelly – Welcome! Child development is so fascinating. Because my first child had physical delays, it was a revelation to me how the motor and cognitive skills are intertwined in typical development.

It’s such a very fine line when you’re tempted to do for a child who is having difficulty, isn’t it? I snapped on the homework thing when mine were in elementary school. Parents were expected to be active participants in hours of homework every night. What good is homework if you’re only doing it because your mom is nagging you, or even doing it for you? It still makes me crazy!

I believe esteem is built not only by success, but about the messages and support we receive (from ourselves and others) when an outcome is less than we expect or think we deserve. Your son is at a magic age where he can begin to understand these things and you can influence these tendencies. Thanks for coming by!