Well, actually, she tagged both of us. I’m not generally a fan of memes, but this one has fabulous antecedents: Tara, Blogger Dad and Writer Dad. While they are all way funnier and more interesting, it’s a pleasure to be in such company. I might answer for myself or for the both of us, we’ll just have to see.
1. Who is the hottest movie star? Do we have to pick one, a boy and a girl? Do they live on even though departed? I guess we get to bend the question’s interpretation any way we wish. I’m going to go with Gary Cooper (because we just watched “Sergeant York” over the weekend) and Gregory Peck (because Atticus Finch defines all that a man could and should ever be, in my book). If Pete wants to wax eloquently about a female, he can do so in the comments. Whatevah. Dream on, baby.
2. Apart from your house and your car, what is the most expensive item you ever bought? The most expensive things I’ve ever purchased have been experiences: A trip to Europe with my daughter would probably be the most recent, most expensive. In the three years we’ve been married, our most expensive purchase together would have to be an experience as well: our trip to Alaska. I would imagine Pete’s individual answer might be travel-related, too, or perhaps his MacBook Pro – which was pretty darn expensive, but I made him get it. Oh, the camera – the Nikon and all its lenses.
If this has to be a tangible for me, I’d have to say it’s my dining room table, and I don’t want Pete to know what it cost back in the day. Of course, if he did, he’d understand why I act as though the force field around it precludes setting everyday things like grocery bags and tool boxes on it. But I’m still not going to tell. Many happy memories and spirited conversations have taken place with this table at the center, and its rich cherry patina mellows and deepens with each passing year.
3. What is your most treasured memory? How do you pick just one? Aside from the obvious: children’s births and other milestones, last conversations with loved ones, and childhood’s magic, I’m going with Pete’s proposal. Perfectly planned and executed with no stagefright in front of a cast of hundreds at the table where we had our first date. Thankfully I responded in the affirmative before his knees had a chance to fully lock up.
4. What was the best gift you received as a child? My mother read to me. She taught me to read when I was three years old. Were I an Indian child, my name would have been Nose-In-A-Book. This great gift has led me into numerous worlds of adventure and thought. A reader becomes a writer.
…You may have tangible wealth untold;
Caskets of jewels and coffers of gold.
Richer than I you can never be —
I had a Mother who read to me.
5. What’s the biggest mistake you’ve made? Oh, we have to pick just one? Lordy, lots of them are so obvious! But we learn from mistakes, even a slow learner like me who may need the lesson more than once. A mistake without a lesson would have to be a regret, wouldn’t it? My father advised me to never say, “If only” as in ” If only I had done this or that . . .” When you get older, he said to me, you won’t regret the things you’ve done as much as the things you haven’t. And yes, I’d have to say the biggest mistakes I’ve made, or regrets I carry, have all had to do with deferments. The time to do it is now. And the other thing I’ve learned is that the seemingly innocuous decision or deferment can wind up being of most consequence.
6. Four words to describe yourself. My daughter once chose three: “Tough, but fair.” I’d not object if “smart” were the fourth. Pete: practical, capable, kind, principled.
7. What was your highlight or lowlight of 2008? Starting this blog led me to begin calling myself a writer, and sparked our entry into the world of online entrepreneurship. But that pales in comparison with our trip to Alaska. It was a journey in distance and spirit.
8. Favorite film? My personal favorites are “A River Runs Through It” and “The Age of Innocence,” probably not coincidental that they both are examinations of deep regret. Judging from frequency of his watching, I’d put Pete’s at “Independence Day” or “The Patriot.” But the one I’m thinking of frequently these days is one that has been lost: a video of my 3 year old and 1 year old on Santa’s knee. Almost twenty years hence, I can still hear their munchkin voices: “I want a blue Barney.” “A computer!” Prescient requests considering who they turned out to be.
9. One thing we don’t know. Pete was pre-med before he came to his senses. I got a job as a law firm data base administrator in 1982 without knowing how to turn their computer on. Luckily, one of my colleagues took pity on me and covered my rear. Thank you, Sally O’Donnell, wherever you are.
10. If you were a comic book/strip or cartoon character, who would you be? Pete would want to be Superman, but he is really more like Mark Trail. I would love to be Blondie and have that waistline! But I’m more like the mother in Zits.
I’m tagging the following bloggers to get this outta here! Don’t feel like you have to participate, but realize how disappointed we’ll be if you don’t. Just sayin’.
Ulla Hennig, because it would be fun to have that continental perspective
Cath Lawson, because I can really and truly imagine her making an exception and participating
Kathy from Virtual Impax, because she can make a business lesson out of anything
Jim Gaudet, because he’s living the geek’s dream in Costa Rica
Lance from The Jungle of Life because he got Jannie to show us how fun is really done
For those of you we’ve missed, we wouldn’t mind a little gratitude!